A rugby ball’s soft, a hockey stick’s hard, what does that make me?’ - Boy, 12

Hello, we’re Ell and Mary.

We’re ex-girlfriends and bisexuals and we’re a bit bummed out by boys.

Three years ago we interviewed women and transpeople aged 11 to 97 for our five-star sell-out show Hotter. We didn’t interview men. We just didn’t want to. Because men are trash, right?

Wrong. Well, sometimes wrong. We asked trans-men, cis-men, and masculine presenting people aged 8 to 102 about what makes them hard. This is a show about what we learned: about strength, fitting in, feeling yourself, and arseholes.

Through singing, dancing, and f*cking around in crap drag, Ell and Mary write a love letter to masculinity which they are forever tearing up and taping back together again.

Directed by Jessica Edwards with Mary Higgins and Ell Potter

Image by Holly Revell

Content Warning: contains references to sexual assault


Ruta Irbite

Set and Costume Design

Tom Foskett-Barnes

Sound Design and Original Music

Bethany Gupwell

Lighting Design

Ted Rogers


Jennifer Lunn

Production Management

Roshan Conn

Stage Management

Ellie Keel for EKP


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